Everything Happens for a Reason…. [with the Original Ending]

**This post was featured as a guest post on the popular blog, Speaking of China, last year. Unfortunately, I had to change the ending as all the dates near Valentine’s Day were already filled. However, I thought that I would share the post again today with the original ending!! Hope you enjoy!

Note: All photos included in this post were taken last year, on February 14th, 2015.**

Chocolate Mousse with Strawberries in the Cutest Little Cup [1]
Chocolate Mousse with Strawberries in the Cutest Little Cup [1]

If someone had to tell me twenty years ago that I would be living in Taiwan and married to a Taiwanese man, I would have laughed in their face and then, well, I would have probably grabbed my atlas, turned to Asia, and then tried to find the location of where most of my childhood toys were made. Yes, that was probably the extent of my knowledge of Taiwan when I was little – a far away place where people hammered and sewed and assembled the toys that I played with and then stamped ‘Made in Taiwan’ somewhere on the box or toy.

Fast forward to now and I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. If it wasn’t for that casual conversation with friends over a glass (or two) of wine one cold night in January of 1999, I would have never considered teaching in Asia. The thought never, ever crossed my mind until that point in time.

Candles and Hearts
Candles and Hearts

My fortitude and tenacity was tested to the max when it took me nearly an entire week to get to Taiwan, a nightmare that I recently relived while writing my book. I thought about giving up on my dream to move to Asia so many times that week and if it wasn’t for my recruiter, who gave me the extra reassurance that everything was going to be OK, I probably would be in living and working somewhere in Canada right now.

My thirst for adventure and for experiencing new things led me to sign a third contract at the school where I worked at, which extended my time in Taiwan for one more year. And if it wasn’t for that, I wouldn’t have been out celebrating with a group of friends the night my husband literally danced into my life.  However, if it wasn’t for his quick thinking and cleverness, he would have never gotten my number that night and we would not be together right now.

Beautiful White Roses with Some Pops of Color [2]
Beautiful White Roses with Some Pops of Color [2]
Four years later, my husband and I decided to get married. I always knew he was one [nearly] right from the beginning. We shared the same interests such as travel, we had so much fun together, and he always gave me ‘that feeling’ which never dwindled with time. When the newness of the relationship wore off, the feeling of ‘puppy love’ was still there. I was and still am a better person because of him. He is an optimist who dares me to take chances and to dream bigger. I am a realist who keeps him grounded [with regards to certain things.] We complement each other. We are better people because of our relationship and each other. We may have grown up on different sides of the world but that makes life interesting.

On June 10th, 2005, four years to the exact date that we met, we got married at the court. According to the lunar calendar, it was a perfect day. Probably too perfect! It was definitely a wedding to remember, all for the wrong reasons. Luckily, we had our Canadian church wedding and reception a few months later which was perfect – well, except for me putting the ring on the wrong finger. Plus, we had our reception in Taiwan where we celebrated with our closest friends.

Calligraphy Writing on My Birthday
Calligraphy Writing on My Birthday

Then, we come to the house which we actually purchased three months prior to completion. If it wasn’t for a series of events, this house that we bought over five year ago wouldn’t have been ours. It was the first house we looked at. My husband knew it was the one but I wanted to look at more. It was actually purchased by our neighbor who opted to buy another one. And if it wasn’t been for the poor state of the economy at the time, it would have been sold immediately at a higher price. The house was meant to be ours.

Which brings me today, February 14th. If it wasn’t for me being born on this day, on Valentine’s Day, my husband wouldn’t have jokingly declared it ‘the most expensive day of the year’ for him! Happy Valentine’s Day, everyone! I hope you significant other is extra special to you today! And not only today, but every day! And just remember, everything happens for a reason.

A Close-Up of the Prince and Princess because I Love the Angle  - 2015 Changhua Flower Festival
A Close-Up of the Prince and Princess because I Love the Angle – 2015 Changhua Flower Festival

What are your plans for Valentine’s Day?





20 thoughts on “Everything Happens for a Reason…. [with the Original Ending]

  1. I read this post last year, but I loved reading it again. It is amazing that you have your husband, and he sounds like the ever supportive partner, and you supporting him too. That is a great shot of the chocolate mousse and strawberries, and I am sure you finished it all 😀 I didn’t do too much on Valentine’s Day. It is just another day to me. Though celebrating love is a great thing, I believe we should be thankful for the love we have in our lives every single day. Hope you are well and having a good start to the New Year 🙂 ❤

    1. Thanks, Mabel! I do have an amazing husband and he has been extra incredible these past months – especially when I was suffering from fatigue and morning sickness.

      And I do agree with you. I think it is important to appreciate the love surrounding you not only on Valentine’s Day, but every day!

      I hope you had a great New Year’s as well.

  2. Lovely photos.

    I agree with Mabel that we all should all be thankful for the love we have in our lives everyday. It’s easy to take things for granted.
    Often, one has to give, sometimes lots, before one can reap the harvests. On the other hand, there are people who are content to take, only. That’s life.

    Have a super day, Constance.

  3. I got for my wife today some stuff from the bakery and a flower bouquet. Other than that the day will be pretty usualy for us, we will be just working and I will also give some English lesson later on the day…

  4. Happy belated birthday! Mi Valentine’s day was nothing special as C. had to work and I was alone all day, but in the evening he brought me cherries and godiva chocolates 😛

  5. Strange that your husband thinks that it is ‘the most expensive day of the year’ for him. Folks here seem to prefer proposing during Valentine’s Day and calls it ‘cost saving’ because it means they can buy just 1 gift/pay for 1 nice dinner to cover both Valentine’s Day and one of the many anniversaries that they have to celebrate. 😀

    Happy Birthday to you too by the way! 😀

      1. I love hearing about Valentine’s Day tradtions. When I did my exchange in Finland, that was the first I heard about a different way of celebrating. I’m not sure now but at that time, it was between friends. Then in Japan, V-Day is for women to give men chocolates and candies and then White Day in March is for the reverse. All silly marketing ploys, of course. 😀

        1. Yes, the Valentine’s Day tradition in Japan sounds a little complicated and expensive as you need to give chocolates to male friends, co-workers, boyfriends or husbands, etc. and then they have to return chocolates of similar or of higher value. That’s the way it is, right?

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