About Being ‘Proud’
My husband is very proud to be Taiwanese. I am a Canuck to the core and he is Taiwanese through and through. However, we both perfectly mesh together to make a great couple, two people who are constantly sharing and learning about our different cultures and traditions.
My husband also enjoys sharing glimpses of his Taiwanese culture with my family. He showed my uncle some tai chi moves while enjoying a few beer one night. He taught my aunt and uncle some Chinese words and phrases which led to my uncle answering the phone saying ‘wei’ for a month.
However, one specific memory comes to mind. And it is a beautiful memory at that.
Attending My Cousin’s Wedding
My husband and I were lucky enough to be in Canada when my cousin got married. It was a special event for me because I got to see and catch up with all my family members on my mom’s side, some whom I hadn’t seen since my own wedding. Plus, I got to see one particular aunt and uncle that I hadn’t seen in years and who never met my husband until then. It was great to catch up with everyone.
My family has opened up their hearts and have welcomed my husband with open arms. He feels comfortable around them. They treat him like one of their best buddies. That is probably why he felt comfortable enough to do what he did.
Warming Hearts and Sharing His Culture with a Taiwanese Love Song
During the reception, the bride (my cousin) and the groom requested that people sing a love song in order for them to kiss instead of the traditional tapping of the glasses. My husband, who was feeling rather happy and confident at that point, decided that he wanted to sing a love song.
He made his way to the front, stood behind the podium, adjusted the microphone, and started to speak. Suddenly, all talking stopped, the noise ceased, and you could hear a pin drop. The place fell completely silent and all eyes were on him.
Then he began to speak ‘Hi, everyone! It is hard for me to memorize and remember the lyrics of English love songs but I will sing you a Taiwanese love song.’
He immediately began to sing. The lyrics of the song basically described how lonely it is if the person you love is not by your side, how the comforter/blanket is not warm if the person you love is not there with you, how the pillow is not comfortable if your soulmate is not next to you.
When he finished singing, the place erupted in cheers. Everyone clapped and some even gave him a standing ovation. It wasn’t because he is a great singer (I don’t think there are any Grammys in his future) but because he took the time to share a part of him and his culture. As he returned to his seat, some people (some whom he didn’t even know) shook hands with him. It was great to see people respond so positively to something they didn’t even understand. I was happy he did it.
As the evening went on, several people came up to me and said they really enjoyed my husband singing. And there was one woman in particular, who I later found out was the groom’s aunt, said ‘I have no idea what your husband was singing, but he really warmed my heart. I could feel the sincerity in the melody.’
The next day, my husband had to explain the lyrics on facebook because everyone was asking him about the song. He was so happy that people responded so positively to something they couldn’t understand and they had taken such an interest in his culture. And like the groom said ‘How many people can say they had a Taiwanese guy sing at their wedding!?!’
And as most people know, smiling is a universal language. However, people can also sense emotion and sincerity and if you listen carefully to what people sing (or say), it may very well warm your heart – even if you don’t understand.
Happy Valentine’s Day!! I hope someone warms your heart today and every single day.
~~And those of you who were lucky enough to be born on Valentine’s Day like me – Happy Birthday!! I hope you are spoiled rotten today and every day as well. I hope you are showered with love and great gifts!!~~