My Taiwanese Husband & His Major Present Flop [What NOT to Give a Woman]

Valentine's Day is just around the corner!
Valentine’s Day is just around the corner!

Please Note:  This is a fun and light-hearted post and one that is not to be taken too seriously!

My husband is a great hubby and gives me amazing presents. Some of very thoughtful, some are total surprises, and some are things that I want but would never buy myself. Yes, sometimes my practical ‘don’t waste money’ intuition kicks in and I usually talk myself out of buying those expensive items for myself. My husband carefully listens while taking notes, and he usually buys the things that I would love to have but would never treat myself to.

However, like most things, there has been a few hiccups along the way. And while my friends are oohing and ahhing over a new necklace or purse or camera my husband has bought me, I am sometimes reminded of those not so cool presents – the ones that, with time, I have begun to appreciate the overall gesture and the ones that have now become the subject of laughter between us two.

So, in lieu of Valentine’s Day being only a few days away and the fact that my husband has been sharing some of my secrets on the blog lately, I thought share the worst present ever given to me by him.

The Worst Present

I guess I should start from the beginning and tell you all about it. It was nearing Christmas a few years ago, after the Vegas incident,  and I suddenly noticed that I had a wrinkle or two under my eyes while looking in the mirror. Of course, I am a woman who values her looks and I made a big deal out of it. I screamed and I called out to my husband. He rushed into the room and arrived in a panic because he thought I was after hurting myself or something much more serious had happened. Then, I showed him my wrinkle or two.

And with the holidays just around the corner, he thought I was giving him a hint of what I wanted for Christmas!

So, off he went to several stores selling cosmetics and beauty products and purchased three bottles of anti-aging and anti-wrinkling cream.

He was all excited to give me the present, but….

it turned to regret immediately when he saw the look on my face and when I started to cry!!

‘Do you think I look old? Are you giving me a hint? How could you ever buy a woman anti-aging cream?’

However, I did use the cream and although it didn’t make me look like a kid in her teens, it did act as a good, but rather expensive, moisturizer.

And to all the guys reading this, shower your girl with flowers and chocolates and things that she loves, but do not, I repeat do not, buy a girl anti-aging cream.

However, if you really want to be in the dog house, then buy it for her. If you want to be labelled insensitive, then go for it. If you want to be given the cold shoulder, then I suggest you try it. And if you are looking for an easy way to break it off with her, then maybe you should consider it!!

And as my husband always jokes with me and says ‘It is all about the girls, not the guys.’ And I always remind him that a happy wife equals a happy life! 🙂

Only five days away ’til Valentine’s Day [and this girl’s birthday]! Do you have any plans for Sweetheart’s Day?

~~Be sure to drop back on Friday when I finally share the post ‘Warming Hearts and Sharing His Culture with a Taiwanese Love Song!~~


46 thoughts on “My Taiwanese Husband & His Major Present Flop [What NOT to Give a Woman]

  1. I can see why you’d be upset, but I think your husband is probably totally innocent here. My guess is he heard you complain about your perceived flaw and wanting you to be happy, rushed off the buy you a the best quality solution he could find. He just wanted to make you happy. I know it’s not normal in western culture, but my husband has bought me cosmetics before, even stri-vectin cream (for lines and wrinkles). I never thought anything of it except maybe I was happy to have it because it was something I wanted. I should mention these presents were gifts that we went to purchase together (they weren’t given as a surprise). Still, I think your hubby just wants to make you happy!

    1. Forgive me for over-using the word ‘happy,’ but I’m getting over the flu and in a bit of a brain fog at the moment.

    2. I know he just wanted to make me happy and at the time, I overreacted and took offense to it. Now, we always joke about it and it is funny to see my husband’s re-enactment of my reaction and hear his take on the situation. This is just a fun and light-hearted post!! I am very fortunate to have him as my husband!

      I am happy to hear that you husband always treats you well and has your best interest at heart. You are very lucky to have such a loving and caring husband as well!

      1. Thank you, yes I think you’re right. it does make for a funny story. I’m sure you probably shared similar experiences to my own about personal women’s issues being fodder for dinner table conversation, i.e. “Nodon’t give her any cold water it’s that time of the month,” etc. I hope you guys have a happy valentines day!

  2. Is it a good or bad sign that the moment I read “…and I suddenly noticed that I had a wrinkle or two…” I already knew where this post is going? 😀

    And I think you need to be more specific, like “do not, buy a girl anti-aging cream” should be changed to “do not buy a girl anything from the cosmetic/skin care store without her presence!”, else some clueless guys might think only anti-ageing cream is not allowed while anti-aging masks are alright! 😀

    1. I think it stung a little more because it was right after the ‘Vegas incident’ (I blogged about it before) where my husband got IDed and I did not and the waitress checked to see if his passport was fake. Oh, and this story has been told way too often.

      And good advice – men should not buy cosmetics without a girl present, period, end of story!! 😉

  3. Oh dear. Your poor husband. Buying you anti-aging cream. Oh dear, dear, dear 😀 I give you credit to actually using the creams and not wasting them. I am sure he will never buy you that again! I think Valentine’s Day should be every day, why not. Love doesn’t have to be shown in grand gestures like expensive creams or meals. It can be a simple breakfast, or like your husband rushing to you when you were screaming at the mirror 😉 Hope the two of you have a good Saturday this weekend ❤

    1. ‘May you treat your significant other extra special, not only on February 14th, but every single day!’ I wrote this sentence in last year’s Valentine’s Day post. I completely agree with what you said – it is important to show you care every single day and it is the small things that count.

      I love the fact that we can laugh about the whole anti-aging cream incident together now. My husband gets huge enjoyment reminding me of my reaction!! 😉

      And I must admit that it is nice to be pampered by my husband from time to time as I hardly ever splurge on myself.

  4. Haha, awwww! His heart was in the right place! I’ve so far been safe from present mishaps from YJ (I’m more of a culprit in the weird present dept!) but I did help him avoid making some silly mistakes for Japanese White Day (when guys give presents to girlsー an explanation on my blog today of where that strange custom came from 😀 ). His coworkers were very happy with the presents he (ahem, I!) selected, which were posh (but reasonably priced) brand name handkerchiefs. Practical and stylish, as opposed to just plain horrible. 😉

    1. Yes, I am sure it was! However, I forgot to include the fact that this was right after the incident in Vegas (the link is in the post now) so it stung a little more at that time. If it wasn’t for the Vegas incident, I probably wouldn’t have reacted the way I did. I actually appreciate everything he does and gives me, no matter how big or small.

      I read your post about the gift giving etiquette for Valentine’s Day seems rather complicated and the rules are pretty ‘strict.’ The only time I have ever heard of a dollar amount being placed on a gift is at weddings in Taiwan – the closer the relationship, the more money is given. For example, the going rate for best friends is NT$3600 (about US$120).

  5. Hahahaha…he definitely learnt this lesson the hard way…😉

    but let me share something I learnt from the wedding I attended over the weekend: someone told the new groom he already started the marriage on the wrong side.. he should always stand on his wife’s left side because she is always right…😉

  6. Hahaha, poor hubby! He was probably all excited thinking you would like his present 😛

    Ah, wrinkles. I have the weirdest wrinkles ever, in my cleavage!! I think it is because I sleep on my side. But what can we do? We cannot have a baby skin forever! My grandma used to laugh at the anti aging cream adverts on tv, she said: “What is the point of using this 20 years old model for the advert? They should use me and then we would see if the cream is effective or not!!”.

    1. I forgot to mentioned that this happened right after the Vegas incident when my husband got IDed and I did not and he bragged about it to anyone who would listen! lol [To my hubby: You are laughing when you read this, right? 😉 😉 ]

      Your grandmother has a point. She sounds very cool, like my grandmother!!

  7. Awwww… your husband has such a heart for you. It’s good that you both can look back on it and laugh; shared memories like this are golden.

    Dan and I don’t do Valentine’s Day. We don’t need to. We have a standing date every Friday afternoon, going for an afternoon walk and then stopping for a glass of wine during happy hour.

  8. I will make you feel 50 times better now: I got not one but two cooking books the same year. One for my birthday the other one for Christmas. Did I mention the first one he got it for free from American Express?
    This year he wanted to be awesome and his friend showed up with a huge tiffany bag (Sing is still in Ireland so can’t do it himself). I opened the bag hoping for something nice but instead I got two wine glasses from tiffany’s business collection. To make things worse he knows I HATE alcohol, I hate smell, taste, everything about it. He probably got it for himself and just used me as an excuse. Sing and Momzilla are the worst gift-buying team ever.

    1. Oh, no! Not just cookbooks, but a free cookbook! lol And wine glasses for a girl that doesn’t drink? LOL – you win on the worst gifts ever! However, maybe you can fill those glasses with juice or something!

      Hope everything is going smoothly with your preparations to move to Ireland!

    1. I think most men are not the greatest when it comes to gift-giving. That is why my husband constantly has his ears open when we are out and about, looking for present ideas! 🙂 I hope you got your wife something special for Valentine’s Day this year!

      1. I hope so too. I will be today and tomorrow away on a seminar in near Berlin. Now a four hour drive is ahead of me as the seminar starts at 10am and it is already 5am here…

        Whenever I am out with my wife and she is looking at specific things I try to remember them as possible future gifts 🙂

  9. My friend’s boyfriend once bought her a dressing gown and slippers as a gift, which I thought was really nice 🙂 She freaked out thinking he didn’t think she was sexy and that was how he saw her. He’s her ex now 😉 Women are mad 🙂

  10. It’s funny, but you have to appreciate the gesture. It seems like he was more concerned about you being happy that making him happy… which is def. the part that counts.
    Also, I nominated you for an award, if you’d like to participate, check out my latest post. 🙂 Cheers.

  11. Very funny!

    We have a famous story in our family. When my granddaughter was about three years old, her aunt bought her a pair of brown shoes for some occasion. My granddaughter tore off the wrapping paper, and when she saw the shoes, she dug around under them mumbling in all sincerity, “I know there has to be something good in here.” Ever after, her aunt included candy in every gift, so that if the main gift was not appreciated, there would still be “something good” inside.

      1. Yes. We’ve teased her about it for years, even though, since then, she has written beautiful thank-you notes for her birthday gifts.

  12. Hehehe, that’s so funny! I’d have reacted the same way but bless him, I can see why he might have thought it was a good idea from a purely matter of fact point of view – it’s exactly the kind of thing my hubby would do with the best of intentions but the worst of outcomes 😀

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